You Cannot Outsource Your Own Security

September 23, 2022

I am bored to death with all the talk in the coaching industry about making all the huge dollars. Sure, that is a thing. I am getting myself some of that big money every month. However, there is more to life and coaching than making mo money.


Conversations about money are dull as fuck because money itself is not really the damn goal. Most people think they want big money. However, here is a little secret: As much as you believe money is what you’re after, it isn’t.


I want to talk about freedom. If you want to talk about freedom, I am here for it all damn day. Freedom is giving me all the feels.

I think it is the only thing worth discussing right now. Life is weird these days. It is unpredictable and unsettling. The wilder the ride gets, the more people typically clamor for as much predictability as possible. The uncertainty usually drives people to run in the direction of security.


But here is the thing: You can’t outsource your security. We all need to learn how to make it for ourselves.


Everyone understands that on a visceral level in ways we didn’t before. The great quitting of all the jobs proves many of us are seeking something that feels more spacious AND solid than just a 9-5 with two weeks of vacation and a 401k.

Coaches like to sell a lifestyle – you know the drill: pretty perfect lives with lots of cash stacking up in the corners of the kingdom. However, I bet you know what is sexier than stacks of money and a picture-perfect zoom background:


Freedom.


Without freedom, all that cash you can make might be nothing more than another prison of your own making.

Now to be one hundred percent clear, I am not in any position to sell an illusion that my life is perfect. It’s not. In fact, at times, my life is messy as fuck – literally and metaphorically. I have a lot of moving pieces in my life. I am working, homeschooling, and caretaking elderly parents. I have five dogs that run my entire world. This whole scene does not always look like a well-oiled machine.


However, I often underestimate how much freedom I actually have.


I forget what it is like to be stuck in the daily grind.


I live about a mile from the beach in Baja, Mexico where the weather is ideal, the internet is usually stable, and the living is fine.
We own our home. We are not juggling debt.


I make a very, very comfortable full-time income working about half-time hours.
I do work I love with clients and students I choose.


This is the kind of freedom most people dream of but will not plan for because they are working their asses off to retire.

We made hundreds of small decisions for a very long time to get us here.


However, the most important of those decisions I made was becoming a coach.

I have the freedom to be there for my aging parents in ways most people do not.
I have the freedom to homeschool my child, which made moving out of the states way easier decision than it would have been otherwise.


I have the freedom to set my hours, hap in the afternoon, and enjoy the sunset as I please.
I have the freedom of location independence and can work, travel, and live anywhere.

I own my own time.
I make my own rules.
I answer to my dogs when they need to go out, and that is about it.


Show me someone who wants to talk about building more freedom in their lives, and I am going to want to tell them about the joy of being a coach.


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May 9, 2025
Don't mistake inspiration for perfectionism on display
communicating to extrovert clients
By Abdul Rahman May 8, 2025
When working as a coach, understanding your client's personality can truly transform how effective your sessions are. People have different ways of communicating, and knowing how to tailor your approach can make all the difference. For coaches, one of the most common personality types you'll encounter is extroversion. Extroverted clients thrive on interaction and social environments, making them dynamic but sometimes challenging to coach without the right approach. Grasping the nuances of personality in coaching helps build trust and enhances results. Extroverts often enjoy being social and spontaneous, making a lively and engaging session more effective for them. A coach's ability to adapt these elements into their strategy can lead to more meaningful interactions and successful outcomes. By catering to their vibrant nature, you ensure that your coaching resonates well and delivers the impact you aim for. Understanding Extroverted Clients Extroverts are known for their lively, outgoing personalities. They draw energy from being around others and thrive in interactive settings. These individuals often enjoy talking things out, participating in group activities, and aren't shy about sharing their thoughts. Motivation for extroverts often comes from external sources, like the people around them or the fast-paced environment they're in. When you think about coaching an extroverted client, consider how these traits can influence your approach. They generally prefer discussions over written communications and often value immediate feedback. Here are a few ways extroverted traits can shape their preferences: - Interaction-Driven: They favor engaging and responsive communication where both sides actively participate. - Visual and Verbal Learning: Extroverts often grasp concepts better through discussions, role-playing, and visual aids. - Feedback-Oriented: Quick responses and constructive feedback can keep them motivated and on track. Understanding these qualities means you can tailor your coaching strategies to be more responsive and engaging, leading to what feels like a productive partnership rather than a one-way interaction. Adapting Your Communication Style Communicating effectively with extroverted clients involves injecting energy and enthusiasm into your sessions. These clients respond well to a setting that matches their vibrant nature. Consider how your voice, gestures, and even your facial expressions can project positivity and engagement. This doesn't mean you have to completely change who you are; rather, it's about matching their energy level to create a more dynamic interaction. Regularly show interest in their inputs to keep them motivated and involved. Active listening is another critical component when coaching extroverts. They want to know that their thoughts and opinions are valued. By actively listening, you show them you care about their perspective. It's equally important to provide immediate feedback. Extroverts appreciate knowing how they are doing right then and there, which helps them feel understood and helps them adjust accordingly if needed. Use feedback as a tool to encourage and guide them, reinforcing their strengths while gently steering them away from unproductive habits. Techniques for Effective Engagement To keep extroverted clients fully engaged, incorporate exciting and interactive activities into your sessions. Group coaching can be particularly effective as these clients enjoy sharing ideas with peers. This environment encourages collaboration and discussion, which can result in new insights and a deeper understanding of the material. If group sessions aren't possible, simulate this interaction by using role-playing exercises. Here are a few practical techniques you might consider: - Interactive Discussions: Encourage clients to discuss ideas and share opinions to foster a collaborative learning atmosphere. - Visual Aids: Use charts, diagrams, and videos to appeal to their preference for visual learning. - Mini Workshops: Plan brief, informal workshops within sessions where clients can test out new concepts in a supportive setting. These activities can make learning more enjoyable for your extroverted clients, keeping them actively involved in their own progress. Building Rapport with Extroverts Creating a strong rapport is fundamental to any coaching relationship, especially with extroverted clients. They usually appreciate coaches who are personable and approachable. Open communication builds trust and encourages them to share freely, which can lead to more effective sessions. Offering genuine praise and recognition for their efforts can boost their confidence. Acknowledge their achievements, no matter how small, to encourage continued engagement. Finding common ground or shared interests can also enhance your connection, making sessions more enjoyable for both parties. Final Thoughts Tailoring your communication to fit the unique needs of extroverted clients can lead to rewarding results. By understanding their traits and adapting your methods, you create a learning environment that resonates with them. This approach not only bolsters their growth but also enhances your effectiveness as a coach. Always be willing to adjust and refine your techniques, reflecting on what works best for each individual, to keep your coaching strategies fresh and impactful. Tailoring your communication techniques for extroverted clients can significantly boost your effectiveness as a coach and deepen your connection with them. If you're looking to refine your approach and explore effective strategies in more depth, consider finding out more about coaching for extroverts with The Coaching Guild. Our resources are designed to help you create meaningful coaching experiences that resonate with your clients and promote growth.
Attracting your first client is about building connections and demonstrating genuine value.
By Abdul Rahman May 2, 2025
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